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From the moment we enter this world, we are born pure, and innocent.  However, as we grow, we learn to negotiate with the outside world to meet our needs.  The more we trade our authentic selves, the further we drift from who we truly are.  At some point in our lives, many of us feel lost.  When we trade away too many parts of ourselves, we become fragmented, and our spirit suffers.  We begin justifying and rationalizing every decision and action to protect our career, power, relationships, material achievement, or the self-image we have constructed. In extreme cases, we may follow only one principle of “winning by any means necessary”, even if it means causing harm to others and sacrificing our souls.

The term “Moral Injury” was originally used to describe the experience of military personnel who struggled to reconcile the killing of innocent civilians and the destruction of lives during the war, with their sense of identities and values. Their feelings of remorse, betrayal, and despair manifested as a spiritual crisis.  However, moral injury is not limited to the military; it can also affect ordinary individuals, including business, political and spiritual leaders. These leaders may wake up one day to discover that they have been seduced by power and betrayed themselves and the trust placed in them. In the process, they have compromised parts of their true selves for the success they believed they wanted.   

When the moral injury happens, some people continue to sell themselves off piece by piece, driven by the allure of immediate reward.  Others awaken to the consequences and fall into despair and self-destruction.  However, some choose a path of recovery, demonstrating courage and resilience.

In our increasingly chaotic and uncertain world, marked by pandemics, climate change, wars, economic uncertainty, poverty, power corruption, rising autocracy, and threat to democracy, continuing to trade away our true selves will not save us. Leaders, especially, must be courageous and authentic to help change the course of the world toward peace and harmony. Whether you are a political, NGO, religious, or business leader, it is vital to examine your true self and values, move beyond your self-interests, and do what is right for the betterment of the world.  The people who follow you demand it.

Authentic Leadership is measured based on a set of leadership qualities that include transparency, honesty, trustworthiness, purposefulness, courage, humanity, empathy, compassion, and vulnerability.   To be an authentic leader, you must first be an authentic human being.

If you are interested in exploring your authenticity, consider the following questions as a starting point to assess your integrity:

1.      Have your organization experienced a significant loss of talent due to employee attrition?

2.      Have you noticed a decline in the enthusiasm and trust of your people?

3.      Have you allowed your ego to take credit for all the success without acknowledging the contribution of others?

4.      What happens when achieving success requires compromising your true self and playing games to get ahead?  

5.      How will you know if you have paid too high a price, compromising your integrity for success? 

6.      Do you still believe in your work, products, and services?

7.      Does your current career path align with who you truly are?

8.      Have you sacrificed parts of your soul to demonstrate loyalty to those in power and protect your career? Have you expected the same from your employees?

9.      Has being a team player become synonymous with conformity and going along with those in power, fearing retribution or loss of status, power, income, or affiliation?   

10.  What have you done that compromises the integrity and future of your business just to keep up with the competition?

If any of the above questions resonate with you, I am here to help you.

 My purpose is not to help you run your business better; it is to help you become a better, more whole human being.  I am here to guide you toward living a principled and authentic life.  This involves rediscovering your North Star, clarifying your non-negotiable values, and striving to stay on the right path for yourself. By practicing authenticity and integrity, you will make all the right decisions in life and business while inspiring and motivating those who follow you.

How do I help?

For over 30 years, I have helped leaders understand how power can either elevate or corrupt. By recognizing the connection between identity and power, they can choose to use their power for the betterment of humanity rather than for self-interest. As you become aware of your connection to something larger than yourself, courage will grow within you. Suddenly, profit and self-interest will no longer hold the same importance.

I will serve as a mirror to help you delve deep within yourself and rediscover your basic humanity. I am here to accompany you on your journey to become your authentic self. To achieve this, you must first know yourself. This process requires courage, honesty, vulnerability, and taking responsibility for your actions. No hiding, running away, pretending, or justifying. Speaking the truth can be inconvenient, unpopular, and even dangerous. But your soul is worth it.

There are three formats of our work:

1.      One-on-one coaching: This personalized process will accompany you through self-discovery and recovery.

2.      Group Coaching: By participating in a group setting with your peers, you will grow and learn with the support and feedback of the community.

3.      Authentic Leadership Workshop:  This structured format offers tools for learning and accountability.  

Please feel free to reach out if you resonate with any of the above and are ready to embark on this transformative journey toward authenticity and principled living.